The worst thing about bloglines is that I don’t know when big comment wars or interesting comment discussions are happening on other blogs. I wonder if there is a way to fix that?
On the other hand, I just don’t get the way some people seem to comment on 10,000 blogs a day (uh, obviously not here) with little cheerleadery comments like "That is so GREAT!" "What a good post!" or whatever.
If you have a blog that I happen to read, you probably don’t know it because I don’t comment unless I have something to say or ask you. I don’t know how people have so much time to comment useless crap all over the place. (Heh, maybe they don’t read as many blogs as I do? 87 at last count.) And WHY??? Does it really add anything?
DOn’t get me wrong, I LOOoooooVE comments. I am generally too lazy to reply to them, but I like to know who is reading, what you all think, and what your lives are like. I also like blogging because if I say something particularly stupid, someone usually calls me on it. I have learned a lot that way, so that is good for me too.
Maybe I don’t get the cheerleader comments, because I am not a cheerleader myself?
The internets are such a curious place.
LOL, I’m the same way. I read about the same number of blogs, and I might comment once or twice a day, and only if I have something specific to say.
But then I’ve always been more of a lurker than a poster.
That is so GREAT!!! Kidding. I really do enjoy reading your blog, though. Good luck with the homestudy and such!
I like both receiving and giving comments as a sort of affirmation. Comments are what distinguishes blogs from other forms of media.
I think what distinguishes blog comments from Yahoo group flame wars is that you (the owner of the blog) and just ZAP someone who hacks you off and nip that potential disagreement in the bud. So, people are more polite than a Yahoo (or internet) flame war. And yes, we all like affirmation that we’re not alone and someone out there actually cares we made the effort to type today.
Oh I so agree! I am also just a “Lurker”
Rats. I was going to be funny like E.H. but she beat me to it. Darn.
I hate cheerleaders and those stupid dance routines.
I don’t comment nearly as much as I did before I had bloglines. I like comments so I figure I should leave them if I want people to read my blog too.
Depends on the topic and the person behind the blog.
If the topic actually causes my neurons to fire in response, then I comment.
If I feel I know the person behind the blog (and they know me) to some degree. Then sometimes I will comment just to let them know that they are not speaking into a void.
I really enjoy reading your blog. I read quite a few blogs myself but rarely comment b/c I feel like the person writing probably doesn’t care what I think! But if I have had a few glasses of wine, I will be posting comments like a madman. BTW, i like the new (kinda new) look of your site with that precious picture of Miss M. with the flowers.
I guess I am. I like to give people a little bit of a positive push if I can. The world can be so overwhelming and so often people on the internet are mean. My question isn’t why are so many people finding time in the day to be a cheerleader as much as how are so many finding time out to be so horrible to others?
I should also say that my blog reading is somwhat split between those that I read for the love of what they are writting (yours for exsample) and those that I read for political debating of somekind.
I don’t comment much but I reall ylike your blog. Its has raised my awareness of some race things and I like that. Plus we both have fab 2 y.os who are soon to be older siblings
Have you started buying adoption children’s books to read to M? we have and S loves them. Maybe if you are stuck for a topic you can review the kids’ adoption books you have (if you already have any)
Cheerlea …? Hey now, no need to go throwing insults around! On the occasions when I’ve posted supportive/encouraging-type comments, it’s usually because, in this strange, anonymous yet intimate virtual world, I feel like the blogger could use a bit of it and being a woman, I want to provide where there’s a need. I’ve never posted a “You go girl!” type message (well, as !-ish as a bitter, cynical hag like me can muster) on your blog because, in spite of your saying that you enjoy comments, you come across to me as pretty self-sufficient and more generally thought-oriented than feelings-oriented in your blog. If you were going through a tough time and seemed to need something like that, I apologize now, but you’ll want to put on a helmet because you might get hit in the head with a few “there-theres”. But I get the feeling that this is not the place you come to for that kind of thing. Am I right?
There are some bloggers who really seem to want and need the supportive stuff to the exclusion of other kinds of commentary. I once got into a weird skirmish with a blogger who, because I had posted a couple of non-cuddly comments, nothing mean — just a correction of a factual error and an incident where we had a courteous (I thought) difference of opinion — she perceived me as some kind of stealth bitch who came to her blog just to criticize her. It couldn’t have been further from the truth but I guess the Internet is a pretty context-unfriendly environment that way. That was a fun situation. I’ve been much more careful since then.
Great blog! You go girl! (My virtual self looks f-ing adorable in those little skirts, btw, and I know that y’all are jus jellus.)