Comments on: Wanting this Child http://american-family.org/2006/03/08/476/ Sat, 19 May 2012 21:45:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Erin O' http://american-family.org/2006/03/08/476/comment-page-1/#comment-1866 Erin O' Tue, 14 Mar 2006 19:47:03 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=476#comment-1866 Can't remember if I've commented before, but I read you regularly -- You always provoke me to think through my own motivations for adopting. Thanks for a beautiful post, especially those last few sentences. Really nice. e Can’t remember if I’ve commented before, but I read you regularly — You always provoke me to think through my own motivations for adopting.

Thanks for a beautiful post, especially those last few sentences. Really nice.

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]]> By: Amy/grrlTravels http://american-family.org/2006/03/08/476/comment-page-1/#comment-1865 Amy/grrlTravels Fri, 10 Mar 2006 02:52:13 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=476#comment-1865 AmericanFamily, that was a lovely post. Just lovely. I don't want to comment back to you right now. Just revel in your luminous words. AmericanFamily, that was a lovely post. Just lovely. I don’t want to comment back to you right now. Just revel in your luminous words.

]]> By: Marla http://american-family.org/2006/03/08/476/comment-page-1/#comment-1864 Marla Thu, 09 Mar 2006 21:40:13 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=476#comment-1864 The ethics of adoption for me have revolved around several issues (some I have worked through, others I have not) a.)that fact that I am personally benefitting from a larger injustice b.) my priviledge has made adoption possible c.) at what point do are we interferring with social policy d.) although corruption has always existed, are we contributing to the "industry" e.)what, if any, is my responsibility to the country that provided me with a family f.) the moral ambuguity of adoption, overall. The ethics of adoption for me have revolved around several issues (some I have worked through, others I have not) a.)that fact that I am personally benefitting from a larger injustice b.) my priviledge has made adoption possible c.) at what point do are we interferring with social policy d.) although corruption has always existed, are we contributing to the “industry” e.)what, if any, is my responsibility to the country that provided me with a family f.) the moral ambuguity of adoption, overall.

]]> By: Perrin http://american-family.org/2006/03/08/476/comment-page-1/#comment-1863 Perrin Thu, 09 Mar 2006 17:15:42 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=476#comment-1863 Now that I have a child born in China I do understand what you are saying here. When we adopted it was purely selfish, we wanted a child! End of story. Now we are adopting again from China and sometimes my thoughts, like yours are indeed a little more convoluted. It is more complex, the issues are not always black and white or easy. I still say we are selfish, not adopting for anybody else other than our family. But I do feel that the situation in China is in some way the karmic yin to our adopting yang. It sort of reminds me of the saying think globally but act locally. (Not that we are adopting to balance a global problem consciously, my family is not.) We want a child, period. And yet, it is comforting in some ways to feel that we are slightly tipping the balance by saying this child's life is validated, is wanted, will be loved, forever and always. Now that I have a child born in China I do understand what you are saying here. When we adopted it was purely selfish, we wanted a child! End of story. Now we are adopting again from China and sometimes my thoughts, like yours are indeed a little more convoluted. It is more complex, the issues are not always black and white or easy. I still say we are selfish, not adopting for anybody else other than our family. But I do feel that the situation in China is in some way the karmic yin to our adopting yang. It sort of reminds me of the saying think globally but act locally. (Not that we are adopting to balance a global problem consciously, my family is not.) We want a child, period. And yet, it is comforting in some ways to feel that we are slightly tipping the balance by saying this child’s life is validated, is wanted, will be loved, forever and always.

]]> By: Viv http://american-family.org/2006/03/08/476/comment-page-1/#comment-1862 Viv Thu, 09 Mar 2006 15:21:51 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=476#comment-1862 I have the same chorus going on in my head all the time. Well, more so before adopting. You are aware and your eyes are wide open. You are thinking about the issues and recognize the complexity - I wish everyone adopting had such a big picture view but sadly, it's apparent from most of the APC posts that this is not true. Keep raising awareness through the blog and keep the discussion going. I have the same chorus going on in my head all the time. Well, more so before adopting. You are aware and your eyes are wide open. You are thinking about the issues and recognize the complexity – I wish everyone adopting had such a big picture view but sadly, it’s apparent from most of the APC posts that this is not true. Keep raising awareness through the blog and keep the discussion going.

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