Comments on: That was fun. http://american-family.org/2006/09/04/that-was-fun/ Tue, 06 Jan 2009 14:04:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: liz http://american-family.org/2006/09/04/that-was-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-3105 liz Tue, 12 Sep 2006 08:50:27 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/09/04/that-was-fun/#comment-3105 I read this when you first posted it and I keep coming back to it, wondering if we should be doing more to show Val both parts of her heritage. Living in the SF bay area, we have ample access to Asian foods and cultures, but it's true. We're kinda short on the honky culture I grew up with (not far from you, in UA, the hotbed of honkytown). We have some Polish traditions from my Grandma, but in the end, my family is pretty much just a bunch of generic white people. I guess we'll have to eat at Denny's more often so she knows my roots. But the truth is, we are an Asian-American family. The combination of those cultures is what we're made of and our daughter reflects that. I don't know why it should be any different for M or for kids from similarly-comprised families. I read this when you first posted it and I keep coming back to it, wondering if we should be doing more to show Val both parts of her heritage. Living in the SF bay area, we have ample access to Asian foods and cultures, but it’s true. We’re kinda short on the honky culture I grew up with (not far from you, in UA, the hotbed of honkytown).

We have some Polish traditions from my Grandma, but in the end, my family is pretty much just a bunch of generic white people. I guess we’ll have to eat at Denny’s more often so she knows my roots.

But the truth is, we are an Asian-American family. The combination of those cultures is what we’re made of and our daughter reflects that. I don’t know why it should be any different for M or for kids from similarly-comprised families.

]]> By: cagey333 http://american-family.org/2006/09/04/that-was-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-3087 cagey333 Fri, 08 Sep 2006 05:46:19 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/09/04/that-was-fun/#comment-3087 GREAT post. I am a White Girl, but my husband is an Indian, of the Asian persuasion, if you will. In our house, we do loads of stuff Wrong or Right, depending upon how you look at it. We have a Christmas tree because we are Catholic, but we eat rice with our fingers. We don't eat Mac and Cheese. We have a curry plant in our kitchen and nary a juice box in our fridge. We don't wear shoes in the house. We only speak English, but use a mix of Hindi and Malayalem for much of the food we eat. Bah. I could go on and on, I guess I am just saying that you ARE an American Family, in all its beautiful incarnations. Hence, the title of this blog. In the end, all I care about is that my son has a mother and a father. Who are actually together (a rare find these days). Even if their fingernails are stained with turmeric. GREAT post. I am a White Girl, but my husband is an Indian, of the Asian persuasion, if you will. In our house, we do loads of stuff Wrong or Right, depending upon how you look at it. We have a Christmas tree because we are Catholic, but we eat rice with our fingers. We don’t eat Mac and Cheese. We have a curry plant in our kitchen and nary a juice box in our fridge. We don’t wear shoes in the house. We only speak English, but use a mix of Hindi and Malayalem for much of the food we eat. Bah. I could go on and on, I guess I am just saying that you ARE an American Family, in all its beautiful incarnations. Hence, the title of this blog.

In the end, all I care about is that my son has a mother and a father. Who are actually together (a rare find these days). Even if their fingernails are stained with turmeric.

]]> By: Rebecca http://american-family.org/2006/09/04/that-was-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-3086 Rebecca Fri, 08 Sep 2006 00:20:25 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/09/04/that-was-fun/#comment-3086 It's great to read your blog (just found it) and the follow up discussion. As a white Jew about to adopt a child of unknown race with a black woman, one thing has become really clear to us: no matter what we happens, race will be an issue in our family. There will be my race, my partner's race, and then the race(s) of our child, and no simplified approach is going to cut the mustard, for any of us. My partner's started to worry she needs to read up on African-American culture since she was raised in a largely white suburb. I, like you, know I'll have no trouble passing on my Jewishness, or my Americanness, but what I struggle with is how I'm going to approach the fact that the world will look at my child differently than they look at me. It’s great to read your blog (just found it) and the follow up discussion. As a white Jew about to adopt a child of unknown race with a black woman, one thing has become really clear to us: no matter what we happens, race will be an issue in our family. There will be my race, my partner’s race, and then the race(s) of our child, and no simplified approach is going to cut the mustard, for any of us. My partner’s started to worry she needs to read up on African-American culture since she was raised in a largely white suburb. I, like you, know I’ll have no trouble passing on my Jewishness, or my Americanness, but what I struggle with is how I’m going to approach the fact that the world will look at my child differently than they look at me.

]]> By: Lawmommy http://american-family.org/2006/09/04/that-was-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-3084 Lawmommy Thu, 07 Sep 2006 14:26:24 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/09/04/that-was-fun/#comment-3084 From one midwesterner to another - nicely said. :-P I just want to know where are you finding Turkish food in the midwest because I am at a loss and would like some. :-) Gretchen From one midwesterner to another - nicely said. :-P I just want to know where are you finding Turkish food in the midwest because I am at a loss and would like some. :-)

Gretchen

]]> By: Amy/grrlTravels http://american-family.org/2006/09/04/that-was-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-3082 Amy/grrlTravels Wed, 06 Sep 2006 21:02:22 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/09/04/that-was-fun/#comment-3082 It's a pleasure to read you. This hits the nail right on the head: We eat, drink and breathe the culture of my (somewhat overweight, often pasty, usually painfully polite, not very huggy) people. Hell, I spent last thursday teaching the girl how to can homemade raspberry jam for crying out loud. We also spent today at a bowling alley celebrating my grandfather’s 80th birthday…can’t beat that for experiencing the local culture. And this? Is just FUNNY. And if you are living your privileged white existence in the US of A and me typing the word ”whitey” really hurts your delicate feelings? Man, it must be SO DAMN HARD for you to get through the day. You have my sympathies. Thanks! It’s a pleasure to read you. This hits the nail right on the head:

We eat, drink and breathe the culture of my (somewhat overweight, often pasty, usually painfully polite, not very huggy) people. Hell, I spent last thursday teaching the girl how to can homemade raspberry jam for crying out loud. We also spent today at a bowling alley celebrating my grandfather’s 80th birthday…can’t beat that for experiencing the local culture.

And this? Is just FUNNY.

And if you are living your privileged white existence in the US of A and me typing the word ”whitey” really hurts your delicate feelings? Man, it must be SO DAMN HARD for you to get through the day. You have my sympathies.

Thanks!

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