Comments on: Educating Miss M http://american-family.org/2006/10/03/educating-miss-m/ Tue, 22 May 2012 16:25:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: American Family » Love is (sometimes) a Battlefield. http://american-family.org/2006/10/03/educating-miss-m/comment-page-1/#comment-3341 American Family » Love is (sometimes) a Battlefield. Mon, 09 Oct 2006 01:47:38 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/10/03/educating-miss-m/#comment-3341 [...] I was talking to A about the responses to my two posts about educating   darling M.  I told him that the sentiment I kept getting was that we (or more accurately HE) should worry more about M’s immediate happiness/stress level or maybe that we shouldn’t pressure her to achieve academically so she would feel better about herself.  [...] [...] I was talking to A about the responses to my two posts about educating   darling M.  I told him that the sentiment I kept getting was that we (or more accurately HE) should worry more about M’s immediate happiness/stress level or maybe that we shouldn’t pressure her to achieve academically so she would feel better about herself.  [...]

]]> By: kim.kim http://american-family.org/2006/10/03/educating-miss-m/comment-page-1/#comment-3340 kim.kim Sun, 08 Oct 2006 10:02:31 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/10/03/educating-miss-m/#comment-3340 Why would you take away the compliment for the B by saying to her that next time she can work harder for an A? What if B is the best she can do? B is a good grade. What if her talents lie elsewhere and are not academic? Why can't you just love her for her B's??? (can't you tell I had a mother who always had the yes but when I did something well....) The other person is scary, I'm glad I don't have to live up to their expectations. Focus can also go on having high self esteem, being creative, learning to trust your intuition, learining a musical instrument, learning a language which hopefull she will have access to that, being able to be assertive and not be abused, doing her best at school whatever her best is and most important knowing that you love her and are proud of her when she does well without a yes but to follow. That sounds all preachy doesn't it, it's not meant that way. The venting is because it triggered memories of my own parents. Why would you take away the compliment for the B by saying to her that next time she can work harder for an A?

What if B is the best she can do?

B is a good grade.

What if her talents lie elsewhere and are not academic?

Why can’t you just love her for her B’s??? (can’t you tell I had a mother who always had the yes but when I did something well….)
The other person is scary, I’m glad I don’t have to live up to their expectations.

Focus can also go on having high self esteem, being creative, learning to trust your intuition, learining a musical instrument, learning a language which hopefull she will have access to that, being able to be assertive and not be abused, doing her best at school whatever her best is and most important knowing that you love her and are proud of her when she does well without a yes but to follow.

That sounds all preachy doesn’t it, it’s not meant that way. The venting is because it triggered memories of my own parents.

]]> By: hong kong girl in vancouver http://american-family.org/2006/10/03/educating-miss-m/comment-page-1/#comment-3307 hong kong girl in vancouver Thu, 05 Oct 2006 07:17:26 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/10/03/educating-miss-m/#comment-3307 This entry made me laugh my ass off because A's attitude towards school is EXACTLY THE SAME AS MY PARENTS'. And every single Chinese parent I've ever known. And to tell you the truth, if I ever do have kids, I would probably push them the same way. What? Most of the time it works! This entry made me laugh my ass off because A’s attitude towards school is EXACTLY THE SAME AS MY PARENTS’. And every single Chinese parent I’ve ever known. And to tell you the truth, if I ever do have kids, I would probably push them the same way. What? Most of the time it works!

]]> By: Meramoo http://american-family.org/2006/10/03/educating-miss-m/comment-page-1/#comment-3301 Meramoo Wed, 04 Oct 2006 16:23:50 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/10/03/educating-miss-m/#comment-3301 Pink Devora, all you have to do is stay one step ahead, according to my dad. I always had to logic my way through the problems, and it was sometimes an agonizing process, but I eventually got there, and the people who could help me the most were the ones who would help me figure out the intermediate steps, not the geniuses who can jump to the answer immediately. Have you guys ever heard of "satisficing"? I came across the term in one of my grad classes, and as I understand it, it's basically doing a "good enough" job, with the resources given, rather than constantly trying to optimize. I think it's pretty similar to what Jody was describing, and it makes a lot of sense to me. Pink Devora, all you have to do is stay one step ahead, according to my dad. I always had to logic my way through the problems, and it was sometimes an agonizing process, but I eventually got there, and the people who could help me the most were the ones who would help me figure out the intermediate steps, not the geniuses who can jump to the answer immediately.

Have you guys ever heard of “satisficing”? I came across the term in one of my grad classes, and as I understand it, it’s basically doing a “good enough” job, with the resources given, rather than constantly trying to optimize. I think it’s pretty similar to what Jody was describing, and it makes a lot of sense to me.

]]> By: this woman’s work - » Hair talk http://american-family.org/2006/10/03/educating-miss-m/comment-page-1/#comment-3300 this woman’s work - » Hair talk Wed, 04 Oct 2006 14:33:54 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/10/03/educating-miss-m/#comment-3300 [...] I was thinking about this when I thought about AmericanFamily’s education woes. You have to know what you’re saying yes to. You have to know what you’re saying no to. I’m still trying to figure out what Madison’s hair says to the broader community (black and white). [...] [...] I was thinking about this when I thought about AmericanFamily’s education woes. You have to know what you’re saying yes to. You have to know what you’re saying no to. I’m still trying to figure out what Madison’s hair says to the broader community (black and white). [...]

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