The puking was a one time occurance, thankfully. We have moved on to bigger and better things.
PINKEYE! Brought home from preschool. Yay!
Trying to get the antibiotic drops into her eyes is like trying to wrestle a greased pig. (And yes, as a result of my rural middle American upbringing I was once a participant in a greased pig contest at our local Farmers & Merchants picnic. I didn’t win.) This should be a fun next seven days.
I think I am going to drag M’s contagious booty all the way to Pottery Barn Outlet tomorrow. If A gets to take a trip to California, I should at least get some cute fall decorations for my house.
Anyway, if it hasn’t been abundantly clear, I haven’t had too much to say this week.
Any ideas? It has been a while since I have done this, but if you have any questions or topic ideas, let me know.
I will attempt to tackle them over my long and lonely weekend.
PS. Does anyone else find this page to be super annoying? And the article about how Mom jeans flatter no one and fashion will make all us poor moms happier? What the FucK?
So, rather than “martyr” ourselves by being unfashionable, we should martyr ourselves by being uncomfortable. Woohoo. I especially liked the fashion advice from Pascale…which neatly separates the “types” and ignores the fact that some of us (me!) are three types: big hips, big butt, petite length.
I have no great ideas for questions or topics, I’m sorry!
I’ll confess that mom jeans are my worst fear, not only cause true mom jeans make you look like an old lady, but also cause somehow it means you’re completely giving up part of yourself… after my daughter was born 3 years ago, I went back to my pre pregnancy weight but to my horror my clothes fit so differently ( I naively thought if I got back to my original weight, my clothes would fit right again)… I had to get different jeans… but did not know where to start…
a friend told me about this website:
http://www.zafu.com/start.do?method=BROWSER_CHECK&partnerId=1
they ask you about your perfect fit jeans and then match you with quite a lot of options that range from style and price… I tried it and then my next shopping trip I tried a couple of the ones they suggested, and I’ll tell you, maybe I’m not the top fashion but I’m wearing very comfortable, very affordable jeans that are not mom jeans… I got a pair at Gap for $35 (on special) and a pair of Levi’s for $44… I did not break the bank and I do love them…
I don’t think fashion will make us happier, but I don’t think mom jeans will either…
suggestion for a topic: how do you fill-out the “etnicity/race” part of paperwork (like school stuff, passports and all that)… I’m in an interracial relationship as well, I’m Argentinan and a very dark tanned one at that, my husband is Irish-American and every bit of him screams typical Irish, redhead, freckles and all… my daughter turned out to be very fair-skinned and blonde… I was already faced with the “etnicity/race” thingy for her daycare, and I’ll tell you I just could not decide what to fill out, do I count her as hispanic? do I count her as white caucasian? to this day, I’m not sure what I’m to answer…
what do you fill-out for M?
how will that affect M’s identity?? I wonder this all the time for my daughter…. specially if the baby I’m expecting any moment now is born dark skinned like I am…
Is this a good suggestion??
To March (the poster above)–I’m of Hispanic ethnicity (Colombian/Spanish/Puerto Rican) but light skinned so I classify my race as Caucasian. My husband is Portuguese so he is technically Caucasian of European ethnicity/background. Our sons are Caucasian Race and both European and South American Ethnicity. We also need to check Asian for our daughter, who was adopted from China. I believe most forms now will have a box for Race and a separate box for Ethnicity. So you can be a Caucasian with African ancestry, for example. Your daughter would be classified as Caucasian Race with European and South American Ethnicity. Congratulations on your pregnancy!
To American Family– What’s M going to be for Halloween?
pink eye! been there done that…oh, i remembered my Dr. told me that even w/out antibiotics pink eye will clear up in seven days by itself……just a thought for next time!
My husband, who is biracial, is very annoyed by forms that ask him to choose one “race” and always checks both boxes. (white and Asian)
Interested to hear what AmFam has to say.
Technically, “hispanic” is different from the other categories because it includes any number of races, since a hispanic person can be caucasian, black, asian, etc. (I realize that almost every word in that sentence should have “scare quotes”-that’s the problem with the forms, right? They try to simplify something rather complex.)
I’m not a mother yet, and I never saw that SNL skit, but I suspect I’ve been wearing mom jeans for a while, if that means loose-fitting and high-waisted. I thought it was funny that the article mentioned J. Warner, since like OmegaMom says, the author is putting pressure on moms to be stylish on top of everything else.
Hi AmFam,
I read your blog because my boyfriend is from China and I’m white, and we hope to have a happy interracial family ourselves one day. However, we are a looong ways away from that happening! Since I think a lot of your readers are mothers, they might be more interested in questions about M, HFC, etc. But I was wondering if you might talk about how your and A’s families first reacted to your relationship? My mom loves my boyfriend now, but a few years ago when I told her who I was dating, she FLIPPED OUT, mostly citing concerns about what she felt was the potential of us having out-of-place-because-they’re-multicultural children.
I may be the only one interested in this, so feel free to pass me over in favor of a question with broader appeal!
I didn’t think the article was saying that the choice comes down to being unfashionable or uncomfortable. They were saying that there are jeans out there that will help you look good and also meet your “mom needs” if you’re willing to spend some time looking for them. Personally, when I know I look my best, I tend to feel better. Guess I’m vain that way.
I also think that Judith Warner is onto something there about martyrdom being a key (and unspoken) element of the mythology of good mothering. Anytime you see a woman being lauded as a good mother, there’s always talk of her sacrifices and self-denial. Why is this necessary to qualify as good mothers?
Happily, I’ve never been either cool or hip, so I don’t have to worry about staying that way.
I’m all about the mom jeans.
The article didn’t bug me – I think the martyrdom point was a very interesting one. I will never wear mom jeans – I think they’re just awful and a sign that a woman has given up on thinking of herself as a sexual being.