Comments on: Ouch http://american-family.org/2006/12/17/two-in-one-day/ Tue, 22 May 2012 16:25:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: American Family » Chinese School di san nian (year three?) http://american-family.org/2006/12/17/two-in-one-day/comment-page-1/#comment-94482 American Family » Chinese School di san nian (year three?) Tue, 14 Oct 2008 03:52:15 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/12/17/two-in-one-day/#comment-94482 [...] plugin, but if you are interested here they are:  Chinese school year one posts: one, two, three, four, five and six. Chinese school year two posts: one, [...] [...] plugin, but if you are interested here they are:  Chinese school year one posts: one, two, three, four, five and six. Chinese school year two posts: one, [...]

]]> By: American Family » Figuring it out http://american-family.org/2006/12/17/two-in-one-day/comment-page-1/#comment-31428 American Family » Figuring it out Tue, 16 Jan 2007 00:58:08 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/12/17/two-in-one-day/#comment-31428 [...] Ever since the Chinese school incident M has been struggling to wrap her head around the idea of race.   While she seemed to have an ok understanding of skin color (people with dark skin, people with brown skin, people with light brown skin, people with pink skin), she is having a harder time with what “Chinese” looks like. [...] [...] Ever since the Chinese school incident M has been struggling to wrap her head around the idea of race.   While she seemed to have an ok understanding of skin color (people with dark skin, people with brown skin, people with light brown skin, people with pink skin), she is having a harder time with what “Chinese” looks like. [...]

]]> By: jen http://american-family.org/2006/12/17/two-in-one-day/comment-page-1/#comment-17074 jen Thu, 21 Dec 2006 13:16:50 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/12/17/two-in-one-day/#comment-17074 I get the same thing. I have one kid with a chinese face, pale white skin and blond hair and the other has black hair, tan skin, and very few chinese features. We lived in the very chinese Toronto and chinese folks comment endlessly about it. My own inlaws look at them with awe. I don't think its meant to be mean. Its a different culture. My MIL doesn't hesitate to ask me if I have diarrahea or to let me know I am fat. When my husband tries to explain that it isn't nice to point out that I am fat they say "what she doesn't know she is fat?" (note anyone over 95 lbs is fat to them). Just like they horrified when I wear shoes in my own house, drink water with my food, have the bottom of my foot facing toward them etc etc... its a cultural thing. In public I usually mention "WE speak CANTONESE" btw: so excited to see another wf/am family online. I get the same thing. I have one kid with a chinese face, pale white skin and blond hair and the other has black hair, tan skin, and very few chinese features. We lived in the very chinese Toronto and chinese folks comment endlessly about it. My own inlaws look at them with awe. I don’t think its meant to be mean. Its a different culture. My MIL doesn’t hesitate to ask me if I have diarrahea or to let me know I am fat. When my husband tries to explain that it isn’t nice to point out that I am fat they say “what she doesn’t know she is fat?” (note anyone over 95 lbs is fat to them). Just like they horrified when I wear shoes in my own house, drink water with my food, have the bottom of my foot facing toward them etc etc… its a cultural thing.
In public I usually mention “WE speak CANTONESE”

btw: so excited to see another wf/am family online.

]]> By: spacemom http://american-family.org/2006/12/17/two-in-one-day/comment-page-1/#comment-16990 spacemom Wed, 20 Dec 2006 02:33:55 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/12/17/two-in-one-day/#comment-16990 Hmm, I could see my girls getting upset with that too. I think the first proposal was a good one. Say in English, "I understand what you are saying about my daughter and she can too. she is now very upset..." Or something to that level. I am also curious what A says to all of this? Hmm, I could see my girls getting upset with that too.

I think the first proposal was a good one. Say in English, “I understand what you are saying about my daughter and she can too. she is now very upset…”
Or something to that level.

I am also curious what A says to all of this?

]]> By: DS-L http://american-family.org/2006/12/17/two-in-one-day/comment-page-1/#comment-16955 DS-L Tue, 19 Dec 2006 17:32:47 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/12/17/two-in-one-day/#comment-16955 Oh - one more thought - if M is coming to China with you be prepared for A LOT OF THE ABOVE. While adopting couples and families get a lot of attention my two hapa boys were like freaking celebrities. The talking, pointing, congregating. At one point my 4 year old was crying because so many people at the Great Wall wanted to take his picture. I don't think many in China see interracial Chinese kids and we were often mobbed. m Once 6 or so old ladies were arguing about whether I had more than one husband because the boys did not look like their sister -- I was trying to say adopted in Chinese and it wasn't working . . . :) DS-L Oh – one more thought – if M is coming to China with you be prepared for A LOT OF THE ABOVE. While adopting couples and families get a lot of attention my two hapa boys were like freaking celebrities. The talking, pointing, congregating. At one point my 4 year old was crying because so many people at the Great Wall wanted to take his picture. I don’t think many in China see interracial Chinese kids and we were often mobbed. m Once 6 or so old ladies were arguing about whether I had more than one husband because the boys did not look like their sister — I was trying to say adopted in Chinese and it wasn’t working . . . :)
DS-L

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