Comments on: Follow Up http://american-family.org/2006/12/19/follow-up/ Tue, 22 May 2012 16:25:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Raquita http://american-family.org/2006/12/19/follow-up/comment-page-1/#comment-30346 Raquita Wed, 03 Jan 2007 15:41:30 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/12/19/follow-up/#comment-30346 Here Here!!! You totally rock! I ish the world was filled with more parents like those reflected in these comments. People really don't get even in the "clash of culture manners" moments that kids don't get that and it hurts - no matter what culture they are from. you rock I am here via Anti racist parents - you have been blog rolled! I look forward to reading you! Here Here!!! You totally rock! I ish the world was filled with more parents like those reflected in these comments. People really don’t get even in the “clash of culture manners” moments that kids don’t get that and it hurts – no matter what culture they are from. you rock I am here via Anti racist parents – you have been blog rolled! I look forward to reading you!

]]> By: Angela http://american-family.org/2006/12/19/follow-up/comment-page-1/#comment-17051 Angela Thu, 21 Dec 2006 03:31:20 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/12/19/follow-up/#comment-17051 I liked Johnny's "clash of culture manners" comment because I'm Cuban and my people have absolutely no problem with talking about your weight (or job, or house, or how much money you make....) right in front of you. I went to visit family/friends I had not seen since in many years and just about every one would preface their salutations with "boy, have you gotten FAT" - after a good solo cry and a few drinks I was able to weather it and dish it back but still...I loved returning as no one here would be tactless enough (rarely I'm sure) to say "hi, haven't seen you in a while, why are you so fat now?" "because a black kid will fire back at them in Cantonese" - loved that...as my daughter is black and speaks Spanish so she already responds to rude inquiries with "yo no quiero hablar de eso" (I don't want to speak about this) - can't wait for a future where not much will be taken for granted. I liked Johnny’s “clash of culture manners” comment because I’m Cuban and my people have absolutely no problem with talking about your weight (or job, or house, or how much money you make….) right in front of you. I went to visit family/friends I had not seen since in many years and just about every one would preface their salutations with “boy, have you gotten FAT” – after a good solo cry and a few drinks I was able to weather it and dish it back but still…I loved returning as no one here would be tactless enough (rarely I’m sure) to say “hi, haven’t seen you in a while, why are you so fat now?”

“because a black kid will fire back at them in Cantonese” – loved that…as my daughter is black and speaks Spanish so she already responds to rude inquiries with “yo no quiero hablar de eso” (I don’t want to speak about this) – can’t wait for a future where not much will be taken for granted.

]]> By: DS-L http://american-family.org/2006/12/19/follow-up/comment-page-1/#comment-17050 DS-L Thu, 21 Dec 2006 03:12:25 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/12/19/follow-up/#comment-17050 "because a black kid will fire back at them in Cantonese . . ." OH I love that! DS-L “because a black kid will fire back at them in Cantonese . . .” OH I love that!
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]]> By: Benignneglect http://american-family.org/2006/12/19/follow-up/comment-page-1/#comment-17023 Benignneglect Wed, 20 Dec 2006 17:06:11 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/12/19/follow-up/#comment-17023 Ok, I know that I will get flag for this, but here it goes... when we married our partners from other races, we speculated/knew/suspected that things like this will happen to us or kids, didn't we? And I know that it is harder than we ever dreamed of and that it is especially painful when it hits our kids. ...and it is wonderful to have places where you can bitch about it. But the good thing is -- and that out ways in my mind a lot -- that every time we cross racial and cultural boundaries for love, things will change and in a few generations it's going to be very hard for those Chinese biddies to say anythings, because a black kid will fire back at them in Cantonese and their own children will be married to Latinos, Russian or Anglos... We just need to sit tight, wait and not get bitter! Ok, I know that I will get flag for this, but here it goes… when we married our partners from other races, we speculated/knew/suspected that things like this will happen to us or kids, didn’t we? And I know that it is harder than we ever dreamed of and that it is especially painful when it hits our kids. …and it is wonderful to have places where you can bitch about it.
But the good thing is — and that out ways in my mind a lot — that every time we cross racial and cultural boundaries for love, things will change and in a few generations it’s going to be very hard for those Chinese biddies to say anythings, because a black kid will fire back at them in Cantonese and their own children will be married to Latinos, Russian or Anglos…
We just need to sit tight, wait and not get bitter!

]]> By: Perrin http://american-family.org/2006/12/19/follow-up/comment-page-1/#comment-17021 Perrin Wed, 20 Dec 2006 16:06:25 +0000 http://american-family.org/2006/12/19/follow-up/#comment-17021 We are also at Chinese school every Sunday afternoon. We don't get as many comments due to the fact that the community sort of knows us adoptive parents now. I think it is interesting that they have segregated the adopted kids off into what they call Chinese As Second Language class. I understand it is hard for us to keep up with thier kids who hear Mandarin at home. But the unfortunate result is that the adoptive parents sort of hang out with the other adoptive parents since our kids are in the same class. We get polite nods from the Chinese folks but real integration is still slow to come. I'm considering a dance class for my daughter at the same school since that class WOULD be integrated and she would be in the class with Chinese children who have Chinese parents. Nontheless it is a good experience for me to be an outsider and to see how it feels each week. We are also at Chinese school every Sunday afternoon. We don’t get as many comments due to the fact that the community sort of knows us adoptive parents now. I think it is interesting that they have segregated the adopted kids off into what they call Chinese As Second Language class. I understand it is hard for us to keep up with thier kids who hear Mandarin at home. But the unfortunate result is that the adoptive parents sort of hang out with the other adoptive parents since our kids are in the same class. We get polite nods from the Chinese folks but real integration is still slow to come. I’m considering a dance class for my daughter at the same school since that class WOULD be integrated and she would be in the class with Chinese children who have Chinese parents.

Nontheless it is a good experience for me to be an outsider and to see how it feels each week.

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