Comments on: Finding information

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 12 Feb 2007 04:12:56 +0000

This post talks about how birth dates are decided.
http://theoneandonlyg.blogsource.com/post.mhtml?post_id=424393

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Fri, 02 Feb 2007 14:44:04 +0000

I have visited your blog once before and found the link recently on another site I visit often. I love, love, love this post! I think it speaks volumes about the word “choice” and how as humans, what we do with our bodies is our CHOICE. Those who call themselves “pro-life” I prefer to use the term “anti-choice”. Thank you it into such wonderful perspective.

By: K&D

K&D — Thu, 01 Feb 2007 02:01:48 +0000

When I received my daughter’s finding ad, I almost cried when it said she was found with some milk because it was something I could tell my daughter about her birthparent’s intent. They meant for her to be found and fed right away. This actually came up recently when she said ‘My mom and my dad left me outside.’ She was almost 6 at adoption so this is her story she already knew, not anything we told her. And I was able to tell her with certainty that I knew for sure they wanted someone to care for her, even if we didn’t know why they couldn’t keep her themselves.

By: Wishnik

Wishnik — Thu, 25 Jan 2007 11:38:03 +0000

At least for us, there were three official documents we were given in Nanning, including (I think, will repost if this is wrong) a birth certificate, finding document, and certificate of abandonment. One had the name of the finding person, location of finding, and name of the police officer who accepted the baby from the finding person.

That said – we have not pursued trying to contact any of these people, though maybe the police officer would be the one we might try for. There is, I think, no way for us to know how much trouble we would create for any birth family we might succeed in finding. Abandoning a baby is still a crime in China.

By: Julie E

Julie E — Wed, 24 Jan 2007 20:18:52 +0000

AmericanFamily, If you want more specific information about the child, there are two sources you can use. The police report and the orphanage file. However, unless there was some reason that the mother / father relinquished custody because of personal reasons (spouse died and they couldn’t care for the baby) you will probably never be able to find the child’s parents. Also, you will need your adoption agency to help you with this – or it may take a return trip to get someone to help you get this information. It also may not be possible – I would think it would depend on the area and their opinions regarding IA.

Some people get lucky, the person who “found” the baby may actually know the family/parents. But honestly, I wouldn’t go that direction until many, many years later. If you don’t read any of Jane Leidke’s information on how finding birth parents affects the children, I would highly recommend it.

I’m going to blog about this post.