Comments on: Sleep Deprivation http://american-family.org/2007/03/11/sleep-deprivation/ Tue, 22 May 2012 22:40:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: lisa http://american-family.org/2007/03/11/sleep-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-36903 lisa Tue, 13 Mar 2007 03:57:49 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/03/11/sleep-deprivation/#comment-36903 I am very curious to hear more about how your thoughts on adoption are in flux. I have been struggling with this a lot in terms of my child's losses, and it came up during the Transracial Adoption class I took last weekend (when the wait lengthened, I put off some of my state classes and am now playing catch up). One of the things that was in the powerpoint is not "saving a child" and J, who has lived a lot in SE Asia, wanted to know why that was so wrong. He mentioned (biochemist-Spock brain) that at some point she would realize the difference in her life. I said that I think the difference is that we want to be parents first and are motivated by humanitarian and ecological concerns to adopt rather than procreate, but we would never try to exploit that choice by telling our daughter that we did it for her (if I didn't want to be a parent, I would send money for orphan relief). But it does worry me that many people don't see this as a distinction. The trainer for the class, who has 17 children, 5 bio and 12 adopted from 5 countries, said that people frequently refer to her as "a saint"-which makes her crazy, as she is clear that she is as imperfect as the next person. But she still recognizes the opportunities that her kids from Liberia have through adoption. Life is complicated. ~lmc I am very curious to hear more about how your thoughts on adoption are in flux. I have been struggling with this a lot in terms of my child’s losses, and it came up during the Transracial Adoption class I took last weekend (when the wait lengthened, I put off some of my state classes and am now playing catch up). One of the things that was in the powerpoint is not “saving a child” and J, who has lived a lot in SE Asia, wanted to know why that was so wrong. He mentioned (biochemist-Spock brain) that at some point she would realize the difference in her life. I said that I think the difference is that we want to be parents first and are motivated by humanitarian and ecological concerns to adopt rather than procreate, but we would never try to exploit that choice by telling our daughter that we did it for her (if I didn’t want to be a parent, I would send money for orphan relief). But it does worry me that many people don’t see this as a distinction. The trainer for the class, who has 17 children, 5 bio and 12 adopted from 5 countries, said that people frequently refer to her as “a saint”-which makes her crazy, as she is clear that she is as imperfect as the next person. But she still recognizes the opportunities that her kids from Liberia have through adoption. Life is complicated. ~lmc

]]> By: Rhiannon Huang http://american-family.org/2007/03/11/sleep-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-36859 Rhiannon Huang Mon, 12 Mar 2007 16:41:49 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/03/11/sleep-deprivation/#comment-36859 I can't wait to hear everything you have to say as well. I know what you are going to say about China though. I have heard that people don't even want to come to America anymore because China is where it's at. I can’t wait to hear everything you have to say as well.
I know what you are going to say about China though. I have heard that people don’t even want to come to America anymore because China is where it’s at.

]]> By: Shelba http://american-family.org/2007/03/11/sleep-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-36857 Shelba Mon, 12 Mar 2007 15:21:28 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/03/11/sleep-deprivation/#comment-36857 So glad you're home! And I can't wait to hear everything. I felt that reverse culture shock too. It was a let down to come home and not be in China. Everthing you said, not being around people, etc. Hah! Remember me asking you what the hell I should do with Zorba when we came home? Remember? Oh my, you are bringing back the memories. So glad you’re home! And I can’t wait to hear everything.

I felt that reverse culture shock too. It was a let down to come home and not be in China. Everthing you said, not being around people, etc.

Hah! Remember me asking you what the hell I should do with Zorba when we came home? Remember? Oh my, you are bringing back the memories.

]]> By: Jessica http://american-family.org/2007/03/11/sleep-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-36854 Jessica Mon, 12 Mar 2007 14:58:24 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/03/11/sleep-deprivation/#comment-36854 Welcome home. I am glad you are all safe and sound. I can totally relate to the next big thing phenomena. I hope I can see you soon, but know that it may be a while. love. Welcome home. I am glad you are all safe and sound. I can totally relate to the next big thing phenomena. I hope I can see you soon, but know that it may be a while. love.

]]> By: 3cmum http://american-family.org/2007/03/11/sleep-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-36844 3cmum Mon, 12 Mar 2007 11:27:51 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/03/11/sleep-deprivation/#comment-36844 Am going to be travelling in a couple of months (we are almost next) and very interested in all of your thoughts..and esp re M as we will be bringing our bio daughter of exactly the same age. Good luck with getting some sleep! Am going to be travelling in a couple of months (we are almost next) and very interested in all of your thoughts..and esp re M as we will be bringing our bio daughter of exactly the same age.
Good luck with getting some sleep!

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