Comments on: L’s name http://american-family.org/2007/03/12/ls-name/ Thu, 18 Mar 2010 02:30:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Trope http://american-family.org/2007/03/12/ls-name/comment-page-1/#comment-57841 Trope Mon, 05 Nov 2007 03:11:39 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/03/12/ls-name/#comment-57841 Hey, I'm posting here because it's more related to this comment. Do you and Mr. A share a last name? And is his last name noticeably ethnic (Chinese or otherwise?) I'm wondering if you have ever been challenged by someone because you and L may not look similar and don't have matching names. (Or you and M, if it's the case with her as well.) Just curious, as we have friends in a flat-out war over what the last name of their impending baby should be. Hey, I’m posting here because it’s more related to this comment. Do you and Mr. A share a last name? And is his last name noticeably ethnic (Chinese or otherwise?) I’m wondering if you have ever been challenged by someone because you and L may not look similar and don’t have matching names. (Or you and M, if it’s the case with her as well.) Just curious, as we have friends in a flat-out war over what the last name of their impending baby should be.

]]> By: American Family » A Quick Call http://american-family.org/2007/03/12/ls-name/comment-page-1/#comment-57836 American Family » A Quick Call Mon, 05 Nov 2007 02:33:16 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/03/12/ls-name/#comment-57836 [...] “Uh, ” said MIL,”Why don’t you call L by her American name?  R is a good name.”  (Also, again she mispronounced R making it sound like a kind of cheese.) [...] [...] “Uh, ” said MIL,”Why don’t you call L by her American name?  R is a good name.”  (Also, again she mispronounced R making it sound like a kind of cheese.) [...]

]]> By: jenn http://american-family.org/2007/03/12/ls-name/comment-page-1/#comment-37017 jenn Wed, 14 Mar 2007 18:15:43 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/03/12/ls-name/#comment-37017 Your quote “I don’t know why we gave her a new name at all. She just seems like Q or L.” made me laugh so hard. We went through the EXACT same thing with our son, Y. weeks of angst picking an american name and then 32 seconds after meeting him for the first time, realizing we were NEVER going to use it...well almost never--there's always that thing where you are in big trouble and your mom calls you by all of your names..... Legally, we have american name [C] chinese name [Y] and family last name. At home we call Y by his Chinese nickname [J] and always have. But at school, he is "Y". He is never ever C although at one time [think he was about 5] he decided to change his name to "book" and requested that I tell all his teachers in Chinese and Swedish school. We didn't keep either of our kids' Chinese names. At the time of the first adoption, we didn't think it was important and we did think it was too complicated. At the time of the second adoption, we wanted them to be the same. In retrospect, I'm not sure what we should have done. When I got married, I dropped my last name and took my husbands except for purposes of work because I wanted to keep work and home life separate. I kind of liken the dropping of the kids' names to the same as my dropping. We did this legal manuver and became a family and all picked a single name. Maybe they will see it that way, maybe not. Congrats on your resolution. Your quote “I don’t know why we gave her a new name at all. She just seems like Q or L.” made me laugh so hard. We went through the EXACT same thing with our son, Y. weeks of angst picking an american name and then 32 seconds after meeting him for the first time, realizing we were NEVER going to use it…well almost never–there’s always that thing where you are in big trouble and your mom calls you by all of your names…..

Legally, we have american name [C] chinese name [Y] and family last name. At home we call Y by his Chinese nickname [J] and always have. But at school, he is “Y”. He is never ever C although at one time [think he was about 5] he decided to change his name to “book” and requested that I tell all his teachers in Chinese and Swedish school.

We didn’t keep either of our kids’ Chinese names. At the time of the first adoption, we didn’t think it was important and we did think it was too complicated. At the time of the second adoption, we wanted them to be the same.

In retrospect, I’m not sure what we should have done. When I got married, I dropped my last name and took my husbands except for purposes of work because I wanted to keep work and home life separate. I kind of liken the dropping of the kids’ names to the same as my dropping. We did this legal manuver and became a family and all picked a single name. Maybe they will see it that way, maybe not.

Congrats on your resolution.

]]> By: Meg http://american-family.org/2007/03/12/ls-name/comment-page-1/#comment-36947 Meg Tue, 13 Mar 2007 19:02:22 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/03/12/ls-name/#comment-36947 if only they'd sit up and properly introduce themselves our jobs as moms would be so much easier!!!! glad you figured her name out- we think we have it down american name/american middle name/chinese middle name/our last name......but until we meet her we don't know yet.......hopefully soon- glad you are all home safe and sound. Meg if only they’d sit up and properly introduce themselves our jobs as moms would be so much easier!!!! glad you figured her name out- we think we have it down american name/american middle name/chinese middle name/our last name……but until we meet her we don’t know yet…….hopefully soon- glad you are all home safe and sound.
Meg

]]> By: margalit http://american-family.org/2007/03/12/ls-name/comment-page-1/#comment-36901 margalit Tue, 13 Mar 2007 03:41:03 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/03/12/ls-name/#comment-36901 I'm another one who just CANNOT wait for the first MIL meeting. I just know it's going to be something that you can make into a book. I have way too many names. I've got a Hebrew name, a Yiddish name, and an American name. Each of those are first and middle, but all have the same last name, a last name I ONLY use legally. I use my kid's last name for pretty much everything. It's quite confusing, but I'm clear as to who I am, and I"m sure L will be as well. I’m another one who just CANNOT wait for the first MIL meeting. I just know it’s going to be something that you can make into a book.

I have way too many names. I’ve got a Hebrew name, a Yiddish name, and an American name. Each of those are first and middle, but all have the same last name, a last name I ONLY use legally. I use my kid’s last name for pretty much everything. It’s quite confusing, but I’m clear as to who I am, and I”m sure L will be as well.

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