Comments on: Different http://american-family.org/2007/04/10/848/ Tue, 22 May 2012 22:40:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: OmegaMom http://american-family.org/2007/04/10/848/comment-page-1/#comment-39888 OmegaMom Fri, 13 Apr 2007 05:28:38 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/04/10/848/#comment-39888 [...] There’s been this kerfuffle in the adoption blog world, related to Julie’s post and the responses to it.  We had ChicagoMama blowing up…Figlet chiming in with “it’s not about you“…AmFam talking about the difference between loving and raising biological and adopted children…Lorrie chiming in with some pretty laidback commentary…then Julie posted some clarifications…and ChicagoMama posted some more thoughts, to which I posted a rather long comment…to which ChicagoMama responded. [...] [...] There’s been this kerfuffle in the adoption blog world, related to Julie’s post and the responses to it.  We had ChicagoMama blowing up…Figlet chiming in with “it’s not about you“…AmFam talking about the difference between loving and raising biological and adopted children…Lorrie chiming in with some pretty laidback commentary…then Julie posted some clarifications…and ChicagoMama posted some more thoughts, to which I posted a rather long comment…to which ChicagoMama responded. [...]

]]> By: beagle http://american-family.org/2007/04/10/848/comment-page-1/#comment-39796 beagle Thu, 12 Apr 2007 13:41:11 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/04/10/848/#comment-39796 Thank you for your fair and rational post on this topic. Thank you for your fair and rational post on this topic.

]]> By: WendyN http://american-family.org/2007/04/10/848/comment-page-1/#comment-39510 WendyN Tue, 10 Apr 2007 21:13:17 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/04/10/848/#comment-39510 Each definitely has their own ups and downs. I can't say that one was easier than the other. I do feel the same as you though, that I bonded pretty quickly to Camille while it took a month or more to bond to our bio son. Interesting... Each definitely has their own ups and downs. I can’t say that one was easier than the other. I do feel the same as you though, that I bonded pretty quickly to Camille while it took a month or more to bond to our bio son. Interesting…

]]> By: Lilian http://american-family.org/2007/04/10/848/comment-page-1/#comment-39509 Lilian Tue, 10 Apr 2007 21:07:08 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/04/10/848/#comment-39509 Great response. Are questions still open? 'cause now I'm curious to know more about the process of falling in love with M ;) Great response. Are questions still open? ’cause now I’m curious to know more about the process of falling in love with M ;)

]]> By: Anne http://american-family.org/2007/04/10/848/comment-page-1/#comment-39491 Anne Tue, 10 Apr 2007 18:01:28 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/04/10/848/#comment-39491 Boy. I read Julie's post at a little pregnant yesterday, and while I came away with the feeling that she probably should wait a while to see how her feelings play out about going forward with adoption, I didn't get the sense that she was "knocking" the process of adoption or felt that adopted children were "second best." Perhaps this is because I myself haven't adopted. I've also not experienced what I would consider *true* problems with fertility, although it did take us close to a year to conceive, and then only after I started progesterone supplements to stop what I believe were several very early miscarriages. During this year period, I did start to think about adoption, and was in some ways excited by the process (even the homestudy, because I'm a nerd and like to do self-analyzing stuff like that), but also felt that having a biological child would be an easier and less-expensive process financially. And, for me, it did turn out to be an easier process--my pregnancy, when it finally happened, went very smoothly. I did not experience many aches or pains, morning sickness was mild, and the birth itself, while painful, was also not bad. But again, everyone has a different experience and outlook. For you, AmFam, it sounds like you were much more prepared for L's arrival, which might have made it seem easier than M's pregnancy, birth, and early babyhood. There are many ways of starting/growing a family--each one of them as legitimate as the rest.....Can't we all just get along without getting up in arms about another person's perspective? Boy. I read Julie’s post at a little pregnant yesterday, and while I came away with the feeling that she probably should wait a while to see how her feelings play out about going forward with adoption, I didn’t get the sense that she was “knocking” the process of adoption or felt that adopted children were “second best.” Perhaps this is because I myself haven’t adopted. I’ve also not experienced what I would consider *true* problems with fertility, although it did take us close to a year to conceive, and then only after I started progesterone supplements to stop what I believe were several very early miscarriages. During this year period, I did start to think about adoption, and was in some ways excited by the process (even the homestudy, because I’m a nerd and like to do self-analyzing stuff like that), but also felt that having a biological child would be an easier and less-expensive process financially. And, for me, it did turn out to be an easier process–my pregnancy, when it finally happened, went very smoothly. I did not experience many aches or pains, morning sickness was mild, and the birth itself, while painful, was also not bad. But again, everyone has a different experience and outlook. For you, AmFam, it sounds like you were much more prepared for L’s arrival, which might have made it seem easier than M’s pregnancy, birth, and early babyhood.

There are many ways of starting/growing a family–each one of them as legitimate as the rest…..Can’t we all just get along without getting up in arms about another person’s perspective?

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