Comments on: what would we do? http://american-family.org/2007/05/22/what-would-we-do/ Mon, 15 Mar 2010 20:08:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Amanda http://american-family.org/2007/05/22/what-would-we-do/comment-page-1/#comment-43994 Amanda Wed, 23 May 2007 16:37:42 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/05/22/what-would-we-do/#comment-43994 Like others who have posted..well, I guess I will say that as much as I read, thought, and worked through much of my emotions before we met S, I never bargained for the day to day ups and downs of worrying and wondering about her birth family. I so, so hope that they had a choice. Like others who have posted..well, I guess I will say that as much as I read, thought, and worked through much of my emotions before we met S, I never bargained for the day to day ups and downs of worrying and wondering about her birth family. I so, so hope that they had a choice.

]]> By: LaMar http://american-family.org/2007/05/22/what-would-we-do/comment-page-1/#comment-43931 LaMar Wed, 23 May 2007 02:02:39 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/05/22/what-would-we-do/#comment-43931 The thoughts and feelings you write about in this entry I have too - more often than not. But, I've given up sharing my feelings with family members/friends because they pooh-pooh everything. They just don't get it. The thoughts and feelings you write about in this entry I have too – more often than not. But, I’ve given up sharing my feelings with family members/friends because they pooh-pooh everything. They just don’t get it.

]]> By: Perrin http://american-family.org/2007/05/22/what-would-we-do/comment-page-1/#comment-43888 Perrin Tue, 22 May 2007 14:59:27 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/05/22/what-would-we-do/#comment-43888 Sometimes those thoughts just creep up on me for no reason and then serve to haunt me for hours at a time. Then I look them in the eyes and see their homeland, that they really are more than just part of our lives in our house in our city. It can be very daunting. I too so hope they had a choice...a hard choice but a choice nonetheless. Sometimes those thoughts just creep up on me for no reason and then serve to haunt me for hours at a time. Then I look them in the eyes and see their homeland, that they really are more than just part of our lives in our house in our city. It can be very daunting. I too so hope they had a choice…a hard choice but a choice nonetheless.

]]> By: joybucket http://american-family.org/2007/05/22/what-would-we-do/comment-page-1/#comment-43884 joybucket Tue, 22 May 2007 14:36:31 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/05/22/what-would-we-do/#comment-43884 Everyday. I wasn't prepared for that. I think about my daughter and everything you've mentioned in various ways everyday for over 3 years. Everyday. I wasn’t prepared for that. I think about my daughter and everything you’ve mentioned in various ways everyday for over 3 years.

]]> By: OmegaMom http://american-family.org/2007/05/22/what-would-we-do/comment-page-1/#comment-43881 OmegaMom Tue, 22 May 2007 13:41:21 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/05/22/what-would-we-do/#comment-43881 Like Siobhan, when the news of the Hunan smuggling erupted, I was horrified. (I was equally furious that there was so much silence about it on the Big Lists when it happened--Oh, no, don't talk about it! China may *STOP* adoptions if we make them mad!) And hearing all these stories about my daugher's province, and learning more about family dynamics in China, makes me wonder...what if... At this point, however, she's been with us for 4.5 years now, and knowing how abandonment is part of her psyche so much that it has caused her (and us) a certain amount of real emotional dififculty, I don't think I could force myself to make her have yet another abandonment if we knew who her birthparents were. If someone had shown up on our doorstep in that first year or two...or in our email box...but now? When her greatest fear is that we should turn our backs on her, or leave her alone? My heart breaks. Like Siobhan, when the news of the Hunan smuggling erupted, I was horrified. (I was equally furious that there was so much silence about it on the Big Lists when it happened–Oh, no, don’t talk about it! China may *STOP* adoptions if we make them mad!) And hearing all these stories about my daugher’s province, and learning more about family dynamics in China, makes me wonder…what if…

At this point, however, she’s been with us for 4.5 years now, and knowing how abandonment is part of her psyche so much that it has caused her (and us) a certain amount of real emotional dififculty, I don’t think I could force myself to make her have yet another abandonment if we knew who her birthparents were. If someone had shown up on our doorstep in that first year or two…or in our email box…but now? When her greatest fear is that we should turn our backs on her, or leave her alone? My heart breaks.

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