Comments on: Thinking http://american-family.org/2007/09/03/thinking/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 00:57:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jim Rittenhouse http://american-family.org/2007/09/03/thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-55516 Jim Rittenhouse Thu, 27 Sep 2007 17:43:47 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/09/03/thinking/#comment-55516 As someone who had a found-sibling situation drop on him from the heavens (my adopted daughter was separated from her twin sister in China) and is well acquainted with others in the same situation, I try to discourage people from looking out of curiosity, but encourage people who have run into this by accident to follow up on it. The twins are absolutely nuts about each other and have a classic twin bond - but the separations (we try to get them together about once every 4 months or so at least) are terrible for the kids. They have gotten a lot out of their relationship - but it's hard (very) for them to be apart. As someone who had a found-sibling situation drop on him from the heavens (my adopted daughter was separated from her twin sister in China) and is well acquainted with others in the same situation, I try to discourage people from looking out of curiosity, but encourage people who have run into this by accident to follow up on it.

The twins are absolutely nuts about each other and have a classic twin bond – but the separations (we try to get them together about once every 4 months or so at least) are terrible for the kids. They have gotten a lot out of their relationship – but it’s hard (very) for them to be apart.

]]> By: What do you all think? | this woman’s work http://american-family.org/2007/09/03/thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-55057 What do you all think? | this woman’s work Sun, 23 Sep 2007 19:22:43 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/09/03/thinking/#comment-55057 [...] AmFam has been talking about searching for L’s information/family and in that case doing nothing could be impeding L’s future options — there could be harm in doing nothing. (I don’t know — I trust AmFam on this one but I’ll say right now that I don’t know enough about Chinese adoption to speak intelligently about it.) Because China is growing so quickly, the information they could get now may not be there by the time L is old enough to want to search. If I were AmFam, I hope I’d be brave and savvy enough to do what they’re doing. [...] [...] AmFam has been talking about searching for L’s information/family and in that case doing nothing could be impeding L’s future options — there could be harm in doing nothing. (I don’t know — I trust AmFam on this one but I’ll say right now that I don’t know enough about Chinese adoption to speak intelligently about it.) Because China is growing so quickly, the information they could get now may not be there by the time L is old enough to want to search. If I were AmFam, I hope I’d be brave and savvy enough to do what they’re doing. [...]

]]> By: egypt4 http://american-family.org/2007/09/03/thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-53348 egypt4 Tue, 04 Sep 2007 15:25:51 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/09/03/thinking/#comment-53348 By the way, why is searching a taboo within the Chinese adoption community? I could guess but I'd rather hear your thoughts. By the way, why is searching a taboo within the Chinese adoption community? I could guess but I’d rather hear your thoughts.

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