Comments on: This is Hard http://american-family.org/2007/10/11/this-is-hard/ Wed, 17 Mar 2010 20:02:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: American Family » two steps forward, one step back http://american-family.org/2007/10/11/this-is-hard/comment-page-1/#comment-83171 American Family » two steps forward, one step back Wed, 28 May 2008 23:01:32 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/10/11/this-is-hard/#comment-83171 [...] If I were reading this description on someone else’s blog, I would be thinking “attachment issues! attachment issues!”  I think that is probaby a fair assumption.  We have been dealing with L’s attachment and trauma issues since she first came into our family.  This isn’t even the first time that a change in the family routine or someone traveling led to acting out.  It just caught me off guard because L seems so much like a “normal” kid (i.e. kid who hasn’t been traumatized) so much of the time, I forget that sometimes she will react more intensely. [...] [...] If I were reading this description on someone else’s blog, I would be thinking “attachment issues! attachment issues!”  I think that is probaby a fair assumption.  We have been dealing with L’s attachment and trauma issues since she first came into our family.  This isn’t even the first time that a change in the family routine or someone traveling led to acting out.  It just caught me off guard because L seems so much like a “normal” kid (i.e. kid who hasn’t been traumatized) so much of the time, I forget that sometimes she will react more intensely. [...]

]]> By: AngelNicki http://american-family.org/2007/10/11/this-is-hard/comment-page-1/#comment-56399 AngelNicki Fri, 12 Oct 2007 01:06:47 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/10/11/this-is-hard/#comment-56399 I think this could be a good thing for her... she will learn that when family members go away, it doesn't mean they won't come back! M will come back, and everyone will be happy and celebrate, and L will see that sometimes when someone leaves, its for a NICE reason and not because they're leaving you forever! I think this could be a good thing for her… she will learn that when family members go away, it doesn’t mean they won’t come back! M will come back, and everyone will be happy and celebrate, and L will see that sometimes when someone leaves, its for a NICE reason and not because they’re leaving you forever!

]]> By: vy http://american-family.org/2007/10/11/this-is-hard/comment-page-1/#comment-56393 vy Thu, 11 Oct 2007 20:02:10 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/10/11/this-is-hard/#comment-56393 We know this reaction well. We have been enduring it now for several months, especially after get-togethers or big events. We've also called in for help from many professionals to try to alleviate our daughter's anxiety attachment. I knew what the problems were before talking with the pros, but it was reassuring to have the confirmation and support and gave us more tools to work with. But at the same time, it is really heartbreaking to know that my girl still isn't comfortable in her own skin and can't relax and release the fear. I wish I had a magic formula to allow her to let go and enjoy the love and attention we give her as a family. -violet We know this reaction well. We have been enduring it now for several months, especially after get-togethers or big events. We’ve also called in for help from many professionals to try to alleviate our daughter’s anxiety attachment. I knew what the problems were before talking with the pros, but it was reassuring to have the confirmation and support and gave us more tools to work with. But at the same time, it is really heartbreaking to know that my girl still isn’t comfortable in her own skin and can’t relax and release the fear. I wish I had a magic formula to allow her to let go and enjoy the love and attention we give her as a family.

-violet

]]> By: sster http://american-family.org/2007/10/11/this-is-hard/comment-page-1/#comment-56382 sster Thu, 11 Oct 2007 16:52:59 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/10/11/this-is-hard/#comment-56382 Delurking to say I'm sorry it's so hard and that I'm thinking of you and L. Delurking to say I’m sorry it’s so hard and that I’m thinking of you and L.

]]> By: KimN http://american-family.org/2007/10/11/this-is-hard/comment-page-1/#comment-56379 KimN Thu, 11 Oct 2007 15:46:06 +0000 http://american-family.org/2007/10/11/this-is-hard/#comment-56379 What a timely post for me to read. It is hard. My son has been home for over 2 years (he came home from Guatemala at 6 months old). Yesterday, we made the decision to start with an attachment therapist. While he has come SO far in the last two years with hard work, there are a few things that aren't getting better and have in fact regressed. It breaks my heart and makes me sick to think of him hurting. I keep rethinking all the things that maybe I should have done differently or better. I just wanted to say that I share your pain. What a timely post for me to read. It is hard. My son has been home for over 2 years (he came home from Guatemala at 6 months old). Yesterday, we made the decision to start with an attachment therapist. While he has come SO far in the last two years with hard work, there are a few things that aren’t getting better and have in fact regressed. It breaks my heart and makes me sick to think of him hurting. I keep rethinking all the things that maybe I should have done differently or better.

I just wanted to say that I share your pain.

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