In his Chinese name, he has the character 傑 (‘jie’) in it. Which sounds very similar to Jay.

So that could be a middle ground to find a Chinese name that somewhat matches English names.

I’m not sure which way I would like it now as I’m pretty much used to my American name (though all my relatives and Chinese friends call me by my Chinese name).

At the very least it’s much easier when calling for customer service and they require you to say your name.

My cousin still has her Chinese name and each time she’s like “It’s ‘T’ as in Tango, ‘Z’ as in Zebra, ‘U’ as in Umbrella…”

I like the idea of keeping her birth name (or at least the name she knows)