Head in my Hands
Today, I am absolutely ashamed of some of the adoptive parents who are posting on the internet about the Netherlands news stories.
Some parents are saying it should be OK for small amounts of money to change hands if people bring children to orphanages. How small is small enough to make child trafficking acceptable? To make the buying of children not a human rights violation?
I also don’t understand how people can be unilaterally discounting the story based only on the fact that they don’t like one of the people who was involved (Brian St.uy) and because the US news hasn’t picked it up yet?
Does the fact that there were ACTUAL, REAL LIVE FAMILIES on their telling their stories not matter just because you don’t like Brian St.uy? People telling how their children were KIDNAPPED by GOVERNMENT OFFICIALS?
It isn’t really all that different from the stories of children who were kidnapped by the Argentinian government. Would we make excuses for that being just a part of the culture and laws of Argentina?
Right now, I am embarrassed to even be associated with a large percentage of the Chinese adoption community. We are talking about CHILDREN. Children being STOLEN from their PARENTS. Can you imagine how you would feel if that happened to you? We are also talking about children being SOLD. For MONEY. To ORPHANAGES where some of our children came from. If my child were sold for $1000 or $.02, the amount wouldn’t matter. Child trafficking is child trafficking.
This whole issue has me really upset. I am done writing about it for a while until I can do so in a more calm, reasonable way.
Edited to add: Just for the record, it is not the discussion we were having HERE that bothered me. It was a variety of other online boards and groups.
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Posted: March 13th, 2008 under Uncategorized, Adoption.
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Time: May 1, 2008, 6:22 am
[…] I’d like to think (ahem. See my halo here? It’s nice and shiny! And I got it cheap!) that in that situation, OmegaDad and I would do what we thought was the ethical thing. It is, of course, easy for me to say; we are safe and sound and working on our dotter’s sixth year home with us, and even the rumblings of corruption in the Chinese adoption system seem to have cranked up after her adoption. And I have already said, in the midst of another post, that at this point, if someone came forward with evidence that her birthfamily had not abandoned her, I would fight tooth and claw to keep her with us…though I would also like to think (halo, remember?) that we’d do whatever possible to make sure we could take her to China on a regular basis to visit her birthfamily. […]
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Time: March 14, 2008, 6:14 am
[…] In the meantime…there’s talk of a Netherlands documentary about Chinese adoption, specifically that there are lots of folks these days who are having their kids kidnapped by government officials and dumped at orphanages. There are those who are appalled and those who think it’s old news. In the meantime, I sit here and realize that, while it was easier to think of someone reclaiming OmegaDotter when she was just a babe, she is firmly entrenched in my heart now and the thought of having someone tell me our adoption was null and void at this point would–yes–make me spend a lifetime and a fortune in court, fighting tooth and nail to keep her with us. That aside, I will write up some thoughts on the issue tomorrow. […]