Comments on: The Incident at the Playground (part 3) http://american-family.org/2008/08/04/the-incident-at-the-playground-part-3/ Mon, 15 Mar 2010 20:08:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: American Family » The other conference topic http://american-family.org/2008/08/04/the-incident-at-the-playground-part-3/comment-page-1/#comment-96560 American Family » The other conference topic Tue, 18 Nov 2008 03:15:07 +0000 http://american-family.org/2008/08/04/the-incident-at-the-park-part-3/#comment-96560 [...] (at least I hope not!).  She has only started saying those things since this summer (remember that one incident at the park?).  I just don’t know what the heck is going on.  I thought maybe kids were [...] [...] (at least I hope not!).  She has only started saying those things since this summer (remember that one incident at the park?).  I just don’t know what the heck is going on.  I thought maybe kids were [...]

]]> By: Andrea http://american-family.org/2008/08/04/the-incident-at-the-playground-part-3/comment-page-1/#comment-90620 Andrea Thu, 07 Aug 2008 02:07:45 +0000 http://american-family.org/2008/08/04/the-incident-at-the-park-part-3/#comment-90620 I wasn't hoping for a dramatic ending, I just wondered how it would turn out, lol! Is it possible that M did get frustrated with the age difference but, neither knowing Molly was three nor even being able to articulate "she's at a different stage in her development than I am" she decided to voice the only explanation she could think of for why the girl was acting differently than she expected? Because she WAS "different" but just not in a way that M was able to articulate. In any case, it was great you tackled this so directly but without placing any guilt or blame on M, just turning it into an active learning experience for both of you- and an ongoing one, too, it looks like! Awesome :) I wasn’t hoping for a dramatic ending, I just wondered how it would turn out, lol!

Is it possible that M did get frustrated with the age difference but, neither knowing Molly was three nor even being able to articulate “she’s at a different stage in her development than I am” she decided to voice the only explanation she could think of for why the girl was acting differently than she expected? Because she WAS “different” but just not in a way that M was able to articulate.

In any case, it was great you tackled this so directly but without placing any guilt or blame on M, just turning it into an active learning experience for both of you- and an ongoing one, too, it looks like! Awesome :)

]]> By: LH http://american-family.org/2008/08/04/the-incident-at-the-playground-part-3/comment-page-1/#comment-90615 LH Thu, 07 Aug 2008 00:45:10 +0000 http://american-family.org/2008/08/04/the-incident-at-the-park-part-3/#comment-90615 Yes.... you just keep plugging away. That's all you can do and it appears you're doing the best you can do. Yes…. you just keep plugging away. That’s all you can do and it appears you’re doing the best you can do.

]]> By: Spacemom http://american-family.org/2008/08/04/the-incident-at-the-playground-part-3/comment-page-1/#comment-90578 Spacemom Wed, 06 Aug 2008 14:42:28 +0000 http://american-family.org/2008/08/04/the-incident-at-the-park-part-3/#comment-90578 I haven't read all of the comments. I think people have always and will always be afraid of something different. This is inborn. Part of being an anti-racist parent is to do what you did, point out the similarities and focus on how people are similar and not the differences. I would not be embarrassed by M's behavior. I truly believe that was a normal human interaction, but I am glad that you,A and M found a new way to approach this so she can work on looking for similarities instead of differences. I haven’t read all of the comments. I think people have always and will always be afraid of something different. This is inborn. Part of being an anti-racist parent is to do what you did, point out the similarities and focus on how people are similar and not the differences.

I would not be embarrassed by M’s behavior. I truly believe that was a normal human interaction, but I am glad that you,A and M found a new way to approach this so she can work on looking for similarities instead of differences.

]]> By: AlisonG http://american-family.org/2008/08/04/the-incident-at-the-playground-part-3/comment-page-1/#comment-90510 AlisonG Tue, 05 Aug 2008 19:36:52 +0000 http://american-family.org/2008/08/04/the-incident-at-the-park-part-3/#comment-90510 These kinds of real-life stories are so helpful in trying to learn to be an anti-racist parent--thank you for sharing it. I'm curious about how you talk to M and L about Asian appearance. My daughter (Chinese) is 2.5 and I'm searching for terms for her skin colour, eye shape, etc. that don't come across as racist or offensive. Any suggestions? These kinds of real-life stories are so helpful in trying to learn to be an anti-racist parent–thank you for sharing it.

I’m curious about how you talk to M and L about Asian appearance. My daughter (Chinese) is 2.5 and I’m searching for terms for her skin colour, eye shape, etc. that don’t come across as racist or offensive. Any suggestions?

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