Comments on: I am not the world’s best housewife. http://american-family.org/2009/01/23/i-am-not-the-worlds-best-housewife/ Thu, 24 May 2012 00:31:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Phibian http://american-family.org/2009/01/23/i-am-not-the-worlds-best-housewife/comment-page-1/#comment-100682 Phibian Wed, 28 Jan 2009 03:46:10 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=1949#comment-100682 I'd say our house is a 9. We have no dishwasher, but other people living in the house, so dishes get washed pretty quickly. We like uncluttered surfaces, and I'm fabulously lucky that my husband helps with the housework. But our real secret is our electronic maid Rosie (a Roomba...) I’d say our house is a 9. We have no dishwasher, but other people living in the house, so dishes get washed pretty quickly. We like uncluttered surfaces, and I’m fabulously lucky that my husband helps with the housework. But our real secret is our electronic maid Rosie (a Roomba…)

]]> By: | Pepper Paints http://american-family.org/2009/01/23/i-am-not-the-worlds-best-housewife/comment-page-1/#comment-100659 | Pepper Paints Tue, 27 Jan 2009 21:33:28 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=1949#comment-100659 [...] other day I left a comment on American Family’s blog in response to her question; How clean is your house. Really it’s not dirty-but [...] [...] other day I left a comment on American Family’s blog in response to her question; How clean is your house. Really it’s not dirty-but [...]

]]> By: Tzipporah http://american-family.org/2009/01/23/i-am-not-the-worlds-best-housewife/comment-page-1/#comment-100626 Tzipporah Mon, 26 Jan 2009 22:53:55 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=1949#comment-100626 Oh Rayne, I think I'm going to make a sign out of that for above the sink: "I am not the maid." That's perfect. And seriously, what is it about housework and fighting? Maybe it's that most men want us to serenade them and throw flowers when they remember to get their dirty underwear actually in the hamper, instead of on the floor (just like the applause they want for changing a dirty diaper). But it's always a source of friction. For us, with a toddler, a working mom, and a chronically ill husband, we waver between about a 3 and a 7 most of the time. Right before Shabbat (Friday afternoon) we sometimes hit an 8, but it never lasts more than 15 minutes. :) Oh Rayne, I think I’m going to make a sign out of that for above the sink:

“I am not the maid.”

That’s perfect.

And seriously, what is it about housework and fighting? Maybe it’s that most men want us to serenade them and throw flowers when they remember to get their dirty underwear actually in the hamper, instead of on the floor (just like the applause they want for changing a dirty diaper). But it’s always a source of friction.

For us, with a toddler, a working mom, and a chronically ill husband, we waver between about a 3 and a 7 most of the time. Right before Shabbat (Friday afternoon) we sometimes hit an 8, but it never lasts more than 15 minutes. :)

]]> By: lisa http://american-family.org/2009/01/23/i-am-not-the-worlds-best-housewife/comment-page-1/#comment-100606 lisa Mon, 26 Jan 2009 05:51:37 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=1949#comment-100606 I will add that, it works for us because we do put things away after use, pick up as we walk through a room etc. Thus, we can still spend our weekends hiking/dancing. We're not always cleaning. I tend to think that we both learned the clean a little every day technique from living alone as adults. My impression is that my friends who have never lived alone struggle with this more than we do. But, as I said, we still argue about it. But I think that's mostly about the dogs. My dogs. Sigh. I will add that, it works for us because we do put things away after use, pick up as we walk through a room etc. Thus, we can still spend our weekends hiking/dancing. We’re not always cleaning. I tend to think that we both learned the clean a little every day technique from living alone as adults. My impression is that my friends who have never lived alone struggle with this more than we do.
But, as I said, we still argue about it. But I think that’s mostly about the dogs. My dogs. Sigh.

]]> By: lisa http://american-family.org/2009/01/23/i-am-not-the-worlds-best-housewife/comment-page-1/#comment-100605 lisa Mon, 26 Jan 2009 05:36:35 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=1949#comment-100605 We're probably at an 8-9 if not for the dogs. But we fight about it, because he is OCD. Just had this conversation with my mom, because I cancelled the cleaning service we had last year (may be making 2 daycare payments soon-updates coming). I NEVER have more than 2 loads of laundry to do at once, and it all gets put away immediately. I clean the kitchen before going to bed, and that includes sweeping. I sweep the rest of the house most mornings before work. I mop the floor with a cleaning rag and get the baseboards at the same time, used to be weekly (Sat am), and will be again now that I'm done with the service. And I never leave the beds unmade (hey, it's about protecting the sheets from settling dust, etc.) Yet J thinks I'm a slob. He also cleans daily, so it works out. Though I do feel a little unappreciated. We hired the cleaner after we adopted because I couldn't keep up, but the frustration was constant about the details she missed, and I think it will be better doing it ourselves. My mother insists that a cleaner is a necessity and is trying to talk me out of the cancellation. But, like Carosgram, I know how to clean and am not happy spending my money on people who make me feel good for 24 hours until I realize that they skipped the corners and the upper shelves. And the ceiling fans. ~lmc We’re probably at an 8-9 if not for the dogs. But we fight about it, because he is OCD. Just had this conversation with my mom, because I cancelled the cleaning service we had last year (may be making 2 daycare payments soon-updates coming). I NEVER have more than 2 loads of laundry to do at once, and it all gets put away immediately. I clean the kitchen before going to bed, and that includes sweeping. I sweep the rest of the house most mornings before work. I mop the floor with a cleaning rag and get the baseboards at the same time, used to be weekly (Sat am), and will be again now that I’m done with the service. And I never leave the beds unmade (hey, it’s about protecting the sheets from settling dust, etc.) Yet J thinks I’m a slob.
He also cleans daily, so it works out. Though I do feel a little unappreciated.
We hired the cleaner after we adopted because I couldn’t keep up, but the frustration was constant about the details she missed, and I think it will be better doing it ourselves. My mother insists that a cleaner is a necessity and is trying to talk me out of the cancellation. But, like Carosgram, I know how to clean and am not happy spending my money on people who make me feel good for 24 hours until I realize that they skipped the corners and the upper shelves. And the ceiling fans.
~lmc

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