Mr. A and I have been together for a long time. Long enough to know that there will be times in this relationship where we are out of sync. Even though most things in our lives are going very well, recently things have been kind of yucky between us. There haven’t been many big fights, but we have been rubbing each other the wrong and bickering more than usual.
Last night, a minor disagreement and a flip comment by Mr. A led to a much more important discussion of what has been simmering under the surface. Back during the great job discussion of 2008, Mr. A made a statement in passing that really hurt my feelings. I know he didn’t really mean for it to hurt me, but it did. I also didn’t realize that it has been bothering me for a couple months until we cleared the air last night.
We hashed it out, I cried a little and Mr. A admitted he was a jerk. I feel a lot better. Maybe things aren’t 100% back to where we were before, but I am hopeful that we are moving in the right direction.
I was thinking about our marriage and how important the commitment to our family is for both of us. Sometimes we get a little off kilter, but we wait it out and work on it until we find ourselves in a more comfortable rhythm again. It isn’t always easy. Sometimes we get hurt or our relationship gets kicked around and bruised, but so far we have always been able to find each other again.
We are lucky that way.
True–it’s not all roses & sunshine all of the time. Glad things are better now.
Yeah, we all have our good times and bad. Hopefully the good times are a lot more often. It always feel good to clear the air.
I forget, how long are you and Mr. A. together? My husband and I are married for 13 years; our first date’s anniversary (14 years ago) is coming up in April. Hard to believe.
I’m happy for you. We’re lucky that way too. I wish everybody could be.
I think that’s part of the beauty of being together for a longish time (we’re coming up on 9 years). You realize that those “off kilter” times don’t mean the end of the world, but just a season to get through. I’m glad you guys cleared the air. Things always feel so fresh when you re-find each other on the other side of a difficult time.
you put it very nicely. Holly and I have that, too. I think that realization and commitment is what makes relationships last.
Glad to hear it. At 17 years we hit those bumps in the road too. It’s good to air it all out now and again.
On the math topic, I’ve learned that her school is teaching Everyday Mathmematics, developed by the Univ. of Chicago Edu. dept. I’ve been reading a little about it and it seems somewhat ridiculous to me. But I’m trying to be open minded. I understand that they are trying to appeal to children of all levels to keep everyone interested…but it seems to be straying from getting to the real answer in a timely manner. Some parents and critics of the system are very worried that these math fads are contributing to the dumbing down of America’s math students. We’ll see I guess.