…is this thing on?
Yeah, so I took a long break from blogging and I didn’t miss it at all. I am not sure exactly what that means for me. Am I ready to close up shop? I don’t know. Maybe.
For a long time, I processed a lot of what was going on in my head here. But lately, I have been spending a lot more time with real-life friends so I talk a lot of that stuff out in person.
Also, there just isn’t that much deep stuff going on for me right now. I have realized that I am kind of living a charmed life. I have pretty much every thing I need (roof over my head, food to eat, loving family). I have almost everything I want (lovely children, hot and supportive husband, most of my material wants are within my grasp, friends that I see often).
I just don’t have as much of a need for the community and feedback that blogging used to provide for me. As they grow older, I also feel like I owe my family – more specifically the girls – some privacy and freedom from internet commentary on their lives and my parenting choices. I mean, YOU, are perfectly kind and respectful, but some of those other internet people can be a little judgmental IYKWIM.
For example, trying to sell the house made me feel and act more than a little crazy. KRAAAZY to a really embarrassing degree. In the past, I would have shared that all with you. But right now, I am not feeling it.
(For those that are interested, we decided to stay in this house for a couple more years. We had 4 serious offers, but at the end of the day, we didn’t want to sell it badly enough. Mr. A didn’t want to sell it at all, so he is quite relieved)
It is strange to even be considering letting my blog go because for over 5 years, it was really important to me. I met a lot of great internet friends here, some of whom became even better real-life friends. My life is a better place because I blogged. Blogging got me through a lot of dark days.
I am not quite ready to close up shop just yet. I might experiment with taking my blog in a different direction. Maybe I will post less often. I don’t know.
I think I will just wait a little longer to see if my blogging mojo comes back. If it doesn’t, never fear, if I am not here it is because I am out in the world enjoying my life.
good for you… I was just worried. A couple of years ago a blog buddy just stopped blogging, and we later found out she killed herself. I get worried.
I would miss hearing what you have to say, but I think that having people to talk to that are right there is WAY better than talking to us weirdos on the internets.
I’m actually glad to hear you’re staying in your house. You kept talking about how great the neighborhood was and you had me worrying that you wouldn’t be able to find a location as good for your family. (Maybe I should get off the internet if I spend time worrying about other people’s housing issues.)
I’m glad you’ve blogged, but I’m sure you’ll figure out what’s best for you to do. Surely you won’t deny the internet horrific/hilarious MIL stories, though, right?
I definitely understand, and I think that’s why my blog remains more of a personal/mom journal for me. I imagine it is beyond boring for the very few people who read it, but it helps me remember the milestones — the days tend to go by in a blur. If I do want readers/comments, I need to branch out on my topics, and if I want to keep it a journal, I should probably just take it totally private. It is always a struggle when you feel compelled to post on a regular basis. Hey, if you post once a week, once a month, or just when the mood strikes you, I don’t think your readers would complain…
I’m glad that things are going well for you. I’ve really enjoyed reading your views on things, but hey, do whatever’s best for for you and your family. Best of luck!
In 3-4 years we’ll be ready to move and your neighborhood might be in our plans. Maybe WE can buy your house!
I quit my blog a while back and I haven’t really looked back. I miss being able to tell stories that I find funny, but when you don’t get any real fulfillment out of it, it’s not worth all the trouble. I totally agree it’s better to just spend that time with your kids and doing things that make you happy.
Well I for one will miss you if you do go. I’ve enjoyed your POV and sense of humor. But you are right blogging should not replace real life..which is why my blog went private and is more of a chronicle for myself and a way for my friends and family (who are all around the world) to keep up to date. One has to go with what works for you. But best of luck whichever way you go.
Thanks though for coming back online as it is worrying when someone just suddenly stops – esp with that last post!
“Hey, if you post once a week, once a month, or just when the mood strikes you, I don’t think your readers would complain…”
My mom has been complaining. She will be very sad.
It’s true–blogging is a wonderful outlet, but sometimes can be so absorbing that it takes away from real life. It’s good to take a break sometimes & live life a little.
I like your blog, but I can understand if it is not right for you anymore. Good luck with whatever you choose.
I hear you. I have posts in my head, but I seem to always have something else to do. I feel like I blog to stay connected with all of the people who have supported me in the last 5 years, and I scan bloglines for the same reason. I really don’t want to lose my cyber friends, but I’m not sure I’m that into it.
Glad you’re staying in your house. Seemed like a lot to give up. ~lmc
Oh, wow…
thanks for the update, nevertheless. I think I may be approaching a similar stage in my life (more “real life” friends, good enough life), but I think I still need the support and outlet that blogging provides. I’ll be sad to see you go, but glad that you’re in such a good place now. It was fun sharing the selling and then not selling the house experience with you! Hopefully, if you decide to quit blogging, we can still keep in touch…
Since you may not be posting as much I’ve decided to out myself. I live in Dublin on the other side of the river and am currently awaiting our TA. We were just referred a beautiful soon to be 1 year old (birthday this friday) baby girl from the Chenzhou SWI in Hunan province. We also just found out that our adoption agency is closing AND if this news wasn’t bad enough – the news that children are being separated from parents and put in quarantine (if displaying flu like symptoms) in China made us decide not to take our 8 year daughter with us on the trip. Broke my heart.
I was hoping to pick your brain at some future date on how to go about researching for more information on our daughter. Hopefully we will be traveling soon! If you’d like to get in touch, you have my email.
Will miss your postings and Thanks for posting great info about adoption issues. Appreciate it!
Krickett
How about you turn this blog into a restaurant critique? Or Chinese phrase-of-the-day? Or snarky commentary on current events? No, it’s perfect the way it is, and if you leave I will be a little bit angry, just like I am still a little bit angry about Afrindimom vacating her place. But you know, angry is just a cover up for missing someone when they’re gone.
Do what’s right for you, but know you’ll be missed if you go. (Is is cheesy if I’m tearing up thinking about all the belly laughs I’ve had on this blog?)
Okay, another closet reader here. I will also miss you terribly but understand and am happy for you that you have more real life friends. This blog has been one of my favorite places on the internet for several years now. I love your stories and your political commentary and your views on race and adoption. I’m also the person who wrote you asking about my daughter’s eyes about a year ago. You were completely correct that it was Epiblepharon. Thanks for that and all the other sage advice.
I’d miss this blog…. but be happy for you. Because, in the end, real life is better than blogging.