Comments on: So you think you want to search?

By: cursing and a bit of a rant « American Family

cursing and a bit of a rant « American Family — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 05:41:49 +0000

[...] are going to remain on the internet forever. When she grows up, she can look at those lists (here and here and here) and ask you which steps you [...]

By: How. « American Family

How. « American Family — Tue, 22 Feb 2011 15:20:53 +0000

[...] if you aren’t sure if you are ready to search, please read “So You Think You Want To Search“. I just reread it and agreed with myself again, so obviously you should listen to me. [...]

By: Lori

Lori — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 13:14:13 +0000

re “Once a pregnancy is established (i.e. past the point where an abortion is a viable option) MOST Chinese families keep their children, even if they are born with visible disabilities, female, a second/third/later child. ”

Do you know of anywhere (maybe with Google translate) that this kind of number can be found? How about broken down by province, or urban vs rural, or living subsistence level vs relatively well to do? I know that in some areas the family planning policies are not closely enforced but I thought poverty alone often made this kind of choice impossible for many families.

By: Mia

Mia — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 00:12:49 +0000

Great post, and raising so many deep questions that apply to adoptions of all kinds. Thank you.

By: O Solo Mama

O Solo Mama — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 19:31:51 +0000

I was glad that in the original post a person who left a comment referenced Brian Stuy and his wife and I would still tell searchers to start there. (Yes, I believe he gets way too much bad press.)

For those interested in the *how* there are several very helpful Yahoo groups to join. I’m only months into a search but will confirm what I have heard. . . that is is important to go to China, get on the ground and start making contacts in person. Some searchers go every year. It’s a long-term operation requiring patience and tact. Also have all your Chinese documents inspected and translated. Things are missed in translation. Don’t rely on the English.