Comments on: No Imposition http://american-family.org/2010/02/03/no-imposition/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 00:57:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: JJ http://american-family.org/2010/02/03/no-imposition/comment-page-1/#comment-148718 JJ Wed, 03 Mar 2010 03:52:37 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=2629#comment-148718 Exactly like me. I have such wonderful friends, especially from my church. I know they want to help me with my very young children, with errands, etc, etc. My problem? I feel a little pathetic about it. Like, can't I even handle my own life, I did choose to have these children, didn't I? And, why should I take someone away from what they probably need to be doing to help me? My friends are at least 5-10 years older than me as circumstances would have it and I know there is pretty much nothing I can do for them to reciprocate because they are waaaay beyond me in life (that's not age bashing), I mean maturity, child-rearing, etc. I can learn a lot from them and accept their help, but that's about it. Finally, a small group of 3 friends approached me and said, we can see you're overwhelmed. We are helping you and you don't have a choice. You do such nice things for others, cooking meals for the shut ins, praying for us when our husbands were out of work, and just listening. What if I can't pay it back? Then pay it forward. What a breakthrough. Yes, I can accept help now because I am worthy of it, I have a good heart, good intentions and I WILL pay it forward. Exactly like me. I have such wonderful friends, especially from my church. I know they want to help me with my very young children, with errands, etc, etc. My problem? I feel a little pathetic about it. Like, can’t I even handle my own life, I did choose to have these children, didn’t I? And, why should I take someone away from what they probably need to be doing to help me? My friends are at least 5-10 years older than me as circumstances would have it and I know there is pretty much nothing I can do for them to reciprocate because they are waaaay beyond me in life (that’s not age bashing), I mean maturity, child-rearing, etc. I can learn a lot from them and accept their help, but that’s about it. Finally, a small group of 3 friends approached me and said, we can see you’re overwhelmed. We are helping you and you don’t have a choice. You do such nice things for others, cooking meals for the shut ins, praying for us when our husbands were out of work, and just listening. What if I can’t pay it back? Then pay it forward. What a breakthrough. Yes, I can accept help now because I am worthy of it, I have a good heart, good intentions and I WILL pay it forward.

]]> By: june http://american-family.org/2010/02/03/no-imposition/comment-page-1/#comment-143102 june Thu, 04 Feb 2010 16:35:33 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=2629#comment-143102 I am the exact same way...I always thought this was an Asian thing! I've totally done that moving tons of heavy boxes by myself, too! When I was single and moved into my first house, I bought 7 of those tall Ikea shelves and it didn't occur to me until I was tired and sore while building the last one that I should have asked someone to come over and help me. Hugging took practice as well. Then I married a South American man and now have minor anxiety attacks every time we meet up with his family and friends and I am expected to kiss people on the cheek. I am the exact same way…I always thought this was an Asian thing! I’ve totally done that moving tons of heavy boxes by myself, too! When I was single and moved into my first house, I bought 7 of those tall Ikea shelves and it didn’t occur to me until I was tired and sore while building the last one that I should have asked someone to come over and help me. Hugging took practice as well. Then I married a South American man and now have minor anxiety attacks every time we meet up with his family and friends and I am expected to kiss people on the cheek.

]]> By: Patti http://american-family.org/2010/02/03/no-imposition/comment-page-1/#comment-143087 Patti Thu, 04 Feb 2010 13:34:21 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=2629#comment-143087 not only did you get four offers, i'm pretty sure i offered AT LEAST four times myself! i'll know next time to just show up. ;) also, i witnessed you initiate a hug last week! see, you can become a better person! :D not only did you get four offers, i’m pretty sure i offered AT LEAST four times myself! i’ll know next time to just show up. ;)

also, i witnessed you initiate a hug last week! see, you can become a better person! :D

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