Comments on: Love isn’t enough. http://american-family.org/2010/02/08/loving-isnt-enough/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 01:51:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kohana http://american-family.org/2010/02/08/loving-isnt-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-144986 Kohana Tue, 16 Feb 2010 10:17:43 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=2640#comment-144986 I feel this way, too, sometimes. It's not loving one less than another - it is just a different interaction, and it is more of a challenge to discover the needs of someone who doesn't reflect their needs in the same way you do. I feel this way, too, sometimes. It’s not loving one less than another – it is just a different interaction, and it is more of a challenge to discover the needs of someone who doesn’t reflect their needs in the same way you do.

]]> By: Monica http://american-family.org/2010/02/08/loving-isnt-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-144827 Monica Mon, 15 Feb 2010 14:17:35 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=2640#comment-144827 No misunderstanding, rather total understanding here. It can be so hard when you think that you have reached a new level of trusting & then something that can seem so small & inconsequential to most can cause a setback in our little ones. "I have to tweeze apart the layers of false confidence and see the tiniest flicker of her eyes to tell me she needs me. I have to see past the brave front. I have to show her it is OK to be scared and she can trust me to keep her safe." That statement just reached out & grabbed me, 3 1/2 years later and there are days I feel that is all we do. Keep doing what you are doing and just trust that the foundations you are building are strong. OT has helped Katie tremendously, to the point that our house is becoming a sensory house complete with a sensory swing in the living room. Wishing you & L luck with the OT and everything else. No misunderstanding, rather total understanding here. It can be so hard when you think that you have reached a new level of trusting & then something that can seem so small & inconsequential to most can cause a setback in our little ones.

“I have to tweeze apart the layers of false confidence and see the tiniest flicker of her eyes to tell me she needs me. I have to see past the brave front. I have to show her it is OK to be scared and she can trust me to keep her safe.”

That statement just reached out & grabbed me, 3 1/2 years later and there are days I feel that is all we do. Keep doing what you are doing and just trust that the foundations you are building are strong. OT has helped Katie tremendously, to the point that our house is becoming a sensory house complete with a sensory swing in the living room. Wishing you & L luck with the OT and everything else.

]]> By: Spacemom http://american-family.org/2010/02/08/loving-isnt-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-144122 Spacemom Thu, 11 Feb 2010 21:07:33 +0000 http://american-family.org/?p=2640#comment-144122 Strangely, I feel the same way with my girls.(in terms of understanding them) Girl #1 I totally understand Girl #2 is an enigma to me. I have a conference with her Hebrew School teacher soon because she refuses to take anything seriously. My comment goes with L's above. They may share my DNA, but they are both different enough that I really am not sure what I do and don't understand Sending you good thoughts as you work through the stuff with L. Strangely, I feel the same way with my girls.(in terms of understanding them)
Girl #1 I totally understand
Girl #2 is an enigma to me. I have a conference with her Hebrew School teacher soon because she refuses to take anything seriously.

My comment goes with L’s above. They may share my DNA, but they are both different enough that I really am not sure what I do and don’t understand

Sending you good thoughts as you work through the stuff with L.

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