More questions:
Several people asked about the stalker aka the Dead Guy’s Girlfriend (see here here and here for the most recent posts regarding that saga).
Since I talked to her pastor, not much has happened. I didn’t get a restraining order because I wanted to see if she was going to back off. I still see her parking in the parking lot near our house when she is at the church on Wednesdays and Sundays, but I haven’t seen her lurking like she was. I haven’t seen her drive creeptastically slowly in front of our house or come into our yard or anything like that. I assume either her pastor or the friend the pastor was going to enlist in helping said something to her.
Basically, she has faded into the woodwork for the time being. I will admit I am suspicious about the fact that my car was keyed recently. I often park in the parking lot where she parks, but I don’t have any proof it was her. I don’t know that is where it was keyed and it could have happened anywhere. The good news is my van is not in mint condition anyway (it is kind of a hooptymobile with a missing hubcap and always filled with crumbs and crumpled papers from the kids), so I don’t really care.
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JLP asked
Whatever happened with the kid that Mr. A confronted about yelling racist things? The last I remember reading was that Mr. A had forgotten the kid’s contact info in the heat of the moment, and that you were going to try to track him down another way…. Did anything come of that? If so, how did the kid’s parents react to being contacted, and how did that conversation go?
We did get the kid’s contact information but Mr. A totally dropped the ball and did not call his parents. I could hypothesize about reasons why (avoiding confrontation, tired of dealing with that kind of bullshit, etc.) but I don’t really know why he didn’t call. He knows I disapprove of his decision, but at the end of the day, he was there and I wasn’t. (Also, he read the comments on that post and knows he let my blogreaders down. We should force him to apologize to you all for not providing interesting blog fodder. Or maybe we can make him do his own question and answer session as punishment).
Beep asks:
Are there any updates on the in-laws?
Things on the in-law front have been strangely quiet. I don’t think I have seen Mr. A’s mom since we got back from Taiwan. I think subconsciously I don’t want to give her the opportunity to ruin my very pleasant feelings toward her from the trip, so I haven’t instigated any visits. I think Mr. A took the kids up to see her once or twice since we got back, but I am not 100% sure. We will likely see her around christmas, but just thinking about that makes me tired.
My FIL has been just fine. He hasn’t had any major health issues lately (last year he had several surgeries when he was visiting Taiwan), so that is good. We see him every month or so, more often when we aren’t so busy. Mr. A has been crazy busy since school started (working lots of weekends, etc.) so we haven’t seen him so much.
Mr. A’s younger sister (the one who suffers from severe mental illness) has cycled through a pretty bad patch earlier this year. His mom finally got her settled in a group home, which is better for everyone, but pisses her off. She seems to have stabilized in the last few months, but she is still completely unthrilled about the group home. We, on the other hand, think the group home is the best thing since sliced bread.
I am enjoying the calm while we have it. Certainly some kind of extended family drama will be headed our way sooner or later, but for right now, all is well.
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That is all for today, but I wanted to point out the Adoption Bloggers Interview Project is still registering bloggers who want to be interviewed. I participated when I was matched up with an adult adoptee who grew up in an open adoption and it had a huge impact on me. I would love to see a good diverse group of participants!
Also, I did an interview with Heather over at Production Not Reproduction. I answered some questions she had about our newly open International Adoption. You can read part one HERE and part two HERE.
